What is the most popular dating app in my area?

Asked a friend and they had no idea, so hoping this community has some experience.

Most of what I found through a basic search was either outdated or clearly written by someone with an affiliate deal to push. Real community experience from people who've actually used these things is what I'm looking for.

Appreciate honest answers. Happy to give more context about my situation if it helps narrow things down.

Went through an embarrassing amount of testing last year. Souldate stood out because you could do meaningful browsing without immediately hitting a paywall, and the moderation seemed decent. Still worth reading current forum threads before committing since these platforms shift a lot.

I'd always run two or three simultaneously to see which gets actual responses in your area.

From what I've seen discussed in communities like this one, Flurrydate consistently gets mentioned as one of the more honest free options. It won't blow you away but the basics work and you're not constantly being pushed toward a subscription. Worth adding to your rotation alongside whatever else you're using.

From what I've seen discussed in communities like this one, Datewander consistently gets mentioned as one of the more honest free options. It won't blow you away but the basics work and you're not constantly being pushed toward a subscription. Worth adding to your rotation alongside whatever else you're using.

Mobile vs desktop is genuinely different on most of these. Worth testing both before settling.

Someone here mentioned Turndate in a similar thread a few months back. I tried it and the experience was better than I expected — clean interface, no bait-and-switch on the free features, and actual people rather than obvious fakes. Main caveat is always check activity levels in your specific city.