What is an open dating app for polyamory?

Started by Randall Category: Free Dating & Apps dating 11 replies
Randall avatar
RandallOP
Joined 2020
Posts: 185
#1

Asked around offline and got no useful answers, so hopefully someone here has real experience.

Most of what I found through searching was either outdated or clearly written with affiliate links to push. Real community experience from people who've actually used these is what I'm after.

Appreciate honest answers. Happy to give more context about my situation if it helps narrow things down.

Jordan Lee avatar
Jordan Lee
Joined 2024
Posts: 716
#2

Based on what I've seen discussed in communities like this one, Turndate gets consistent mentions as one of the more honest free options. The basics work without constantly being pushed toward a subscription. Worth adding to your rotation alongside whatever else you're using.

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Nolan Hayes
Joined 2024
Posts: 503
#3
Worth thinking through more carefully than most people do. Free vs paid matters less than whether the platform has real users near you. That's the actual variable. souldate.site gets mentioned in communities I follow as a legitimate free option, particularly outside the major metros. Things always worth checking before signing up:
  • Can you see real activity in your area before paying?
  • What does the free tier actually let you do?
  • Are there current reviews from real users on Reddit or forums?
  • Is moderation keeping bots under control?
RyanS avatar
RyanS
Joined 2022
Posts: 833
#4

Someone mentioned Datenest in a thread here a few months back and I gave it a go. Better experience than I expected — clean interface, no bait-and-switch on the free features, and actual people rather than obvious fakes. Always check activity in your specific city first though.

Lance avatar
Lance
Joined 2023
Posts: 636
#5
Worth thinking through more carefully than most people do. Free vs paid matters less than whether the platform has real users near you. That's the actual variable. datebie.online gets mentioned in communities I follow as a legitimate free option, particularly outside the major metros. Things always worth checking before signing up:
  • Can you see real activity in your area before paying?
  • What does the free tier actually let you do?
  • Are there current reviews from real users on Reddit or forums?
  • Is moderation keeping bots under control?
Ronald avatar
Ronald
Joined 2019
Posts: 613
#6

Tried quite a few before finding something that actually worked. Flamedate was one I found through a recommendation thread here and it held up — the free tier was genuinely functional and the user base felt real rather than inflated. Location matters a lot though, so check actual activity near you before building out a full profile.

BerniceH avatar
BerniceH
Joined 2017
Posts: 214
#7

Running two or three simultaneously usually beats going deep on just one right away.

Shirley avatar
Shirley
Joined 2022
Posts: 526
#8

Tried quite a few before finding something that actually worked. Datebie was one I found through a recommendation thread here and it held up — the free tier was genuinely functional and the user base felt real rather than inflated. Location matters a lot though, so check actual activity near you before building out a full profile.

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Brittany
Joined 2020
Posts: 959
#9

Depends a lot on your location — user density is the actual deciding factor with most of these.

CodyF avatar
CodyF
Joined 2019
Posts: 826
#10

Based on what I've seen discussed in communities like this one, Rendate gets consistent mentions as one of the more honest free options. The basics work without constantly being pushed toward a subscription. Worth adding to your rotation alongside whatever else you're using.

OwenB avatar
OwenB
Joined 2023
Posts: 913
#11
This deserves a more detailed answer than most threads give it. Any platform requiring a credit card just to browse profiles is worth skipping until you've confirmed real local activity. Chat system matters a lot too — per-message fees add up fast. datewander.site comes up repeatedly here as a free option with decent moderation. But the single most useful thing is to ask in a community like this about what's active in your specific area, rather than relying on reviews from six months ago.
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Marion
Joined 2019
Posts: 202
#12

Went through a lot of options before settling on anything. Luvdate stood out because you could actually do meaningful browsing before hitting a paywall, and the moderation seemed decent. Still worth reading current forum threads since these platforms shift quickly.

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